And all at once the crowd begins to sing, Sometimes the hardest thing and the right thing are the same
I met up with one of my good mates earlier. we had intended on going sailing but ferg wasn’t at the boathouse like he said he’d be. So instead we went to the pub for some pool and some beer. Had a rather good day in the end. Got chatting to this mate, which i hadn’t done in a while, so that was nice. We got chatting generally, but then we started talking about women, and the associated relationship troubles of dating in a small town like Aberystwyth. He’s just broken it off with a girl i know, one who’s a strong Christian. He was brought up Christian but has recently fallen away a little. When he started dating this girl i think it re-kindled his faith slightly, but it seems that certain small minded little bastards at the Christian Union thought him “not-christian enough” for this particular girl and warned her off him.
My freind made it clear that this was not the reason the relationship broke down, but also that it has turned him cold towards the CU and Christianity. I hate it when this happens. Why can’t people just mind their own bloody business. TBH, this is one of the reasons i’m not sure i want to be involved in the CU, so i can avoid the political bullshit that surrounds particular christian organisations. It seems that my snap judgment of the CU was right in that they are rather cliquey.
Anyway, enough about that bullshit. Another thing we got chatting about was women in general and how he could become friendly with another mutual acquaintance of ours. In the process we had a moment of clarity. Men are not as obsessed with sex as some people think. Sure, some do think with their dicks, but often, all a guy wants is an attractive girl to share things with. There’s **Definitely** something to be said for waking up next to a beautiful woman. For that matter, sleeping with (as in, just sleeping next to) a woman is just awesome.
Yes, sex is nice. Sex is more than nice in fact, its great. But as my friend pointed out that its not the sex that he misses, but the closeness of having a girl to share life with.
Make of that what you will. Are we an abberation? are most men just obsessed with the sex, is it the regular sex they want? I don’t know, but i know for sure i’m not looking for a girl to have a Wham-Bam relationship with. Lucy, my amazing girly mate i have spoken of before on these pages, put it that i’m looking for something long term, and that thats why i’m being picky. She was actually describing how another guy, timo, was looking for something similar and it was just a throwaway comment, but she’s right, because i am.
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Well, life has been meh recently. just got over feeling ill and now i’ve even got over the apathetic “meh” feeling i’ve been having recently (or maybe just got used to it. i haven’t quite worked it out yet)
In any case, i’ve been intensively gaming recently just to give myself something that’s not way too much effort to do. Saints row is an amazing game. massive fun. there’s something satisfying about stealing a really nice car with a shotgun. then leading a massive car chase throughout the city. then setting something on fire. then setting something else on fire. then taking on the cops and finally being brought down by a combination of SWAT, sniper gunfire from helicopters, the FBI and the regular police. and then doing it all over again. Not to mention that some of the things in it are just inspired, like the drug dealer missions where you have to protect the dealer whilst he does his missions. some of the little comments are great. For instance, after taking out a car with a grenade, responses range from “I probably shouldn’t tell my parole officer about that…” to “Man, i’m glad you’re on the payroll”. They’re different for different missions as well. Its good, not-so-clean fun.
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decided i’m going to go down to the warden by friday. Probably on friday, in fact, since tomorrow i’m gonna go see if Lucy’s ok, since she’s been a bit under the weather with a cold recently. I think tea and chocolate is in order.
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Quick funny I just remembered. I was just browsing the BBC news articles and found a set of pictures showing sudanese protests against the re-publication of the cartoons. one placard read “ALL MUSLIM NATIONS ARE AGAINST DANISH PRODUCTS”.
Me and patrik were talking about this last year and all we came up with as major danish exports were Beer, Bacon and Porn. Don’t get me wrong, but somehow, i don’t think those products are in massive demand in muslim nations.
I googled ‘I hate Aber’ cos i’m feeling a bit homesick today and i found this page and of cos, your article! This, i tell you, is a memorable moment as i have never blogged before but something i read in your post has fired me to. Felt i should drop a comment.
I think it is unfair to blame the members of the CU for your friend’s failed relationship if you are not actually sure that someone from the CU said that he was not ‘christian enough’ for her. I am in the CU myself, and i know members of the CU go out with non-christians and people who aren’t necessarily ‘very christian’. Being a first year, i would hardly describe the CU as ‘cliquey’ because the ease at which i could make friends with people who are completely different from me doesn’t suggest cliques. They are the warmest people i have met in the past 6months i have spent here (i don’t care if that sounds cheesy); and may i mention that they had no reason to be particularly nice to me as i’m far from being one of the most ‘christian’ amongst them. I would be very interested in ‘the political bullshit’ that you refer to as being in such organisations as the CU. I can’t see it and im yet to experience any of it. It seems you have a personal enemity with this group of people for no substantial reason. I wonder why.
Kelly,
Perhaps i should clarify, I’m not actually targeting the whole CU with this rant, just those that felt justified in meddling with a relationship involving one of my closest friends.
I should also explain further. I have been a Christian all my life. One thing i hate about Christian organizations is the fakeness of the way many behave towards people. Politics has no place in a Christian organization, yet it so often finds a home there. I have personally seen it in every church i’ve been in, as well as the other CU i was involved in at my sixth form.
By “political bullshit” i mean the way in which many Christians work against others, rather than for them.
Please note i *do not blame* the CU for breaking the relationship. My rant is worded badly and i shall fix that. I simply mean that it is not the CU’s place to judge or to meddle.
The guy himself doesn’t blame the CU, he was simply really annoyed that they’d interfered. As was I. My friend used to be a Christian but has fallen out of faith and no longer believes in god. As noted above, the main reason I’m pissed off that people interfered is because he seemed to be coming back around to Christianity, until someone meddled. I also know for a fact that it was people within the CU who warned her off him. I spoke to one of my mates who is in the CU about this, and whilst he disagreed with me about whether or not it was right for them to meddle, he did acknowledge that he knew people had said things.
Yes, there are loads of people in the CU who are awesome. I’m great friends with many of them. I’d just prefer not to have to associate with those who aren’t as awesome as they *should* be.
Re: my cliquey comment, its just my experience that many in the CU are careful who they make friends with. This may not be your experience, and i may be wrong. Its just my opinion.
Anyway, thanks for the comment,
Pete